If you
are unaware of your subconscious beliefs driving your decisions, then you are
unaware of how or WHY your decisions are being made. By gaining awareness over
what is filtering and influencing your decisions, you will have the power to
stop, access and know how to construct healthy decisions based on positive
beliefs, which will move your life in a positive and easy direction.
Here
is a list of 10 beliefs, which you may be unaware of, which are shaping your
decisions in a negative way and possibly making your life hard, stressful and
possibly chaotic or lacking meaning. The possible decisions show what plays out in
your behavior:
1.
It is hard to make money
This
is a belief which we absorb from our environment very early in childhood. It is
a belief which will create a scarcity mindset instead of an abundant mindset
and will shape your relationship with money.
Possible decisions: I need to be very careful
with what I earn and hold on tightly to money.
2.
Life is about hard work
Also
absorbed early in childhood by observing our parents and close social environment
and could be a good reason why most people suffer burn out.
Possible decisions: I need to be in a job which I
am challenged and pushing myself to succeed. Happiness is not at the forefront
of motivation, I need to work hard and push myself constantly.
3.
Relationships are scary or
challenging
Based
on what we observed as well as past experiences of heartbreak or rejection
leading us to protect ourselves from emotional vulnerability in relationships
and be more closed off.
Possible decisions: I do not want to be in a
relationship, always looking for exit strategy, cannot communicate self or find
it hard to trust or open up.
4.
I need things to be perfect
before I do anything
This
belief normally comes from teacher or parent pressure to please and get everything
right.
Possible decisions: Procrastination, fear of
getting started. Feeling like a failure and that you cannot get anything which includes
have very high and even unrealistic expectations on yourself and others.
5.
I don’t have enough money or
energy
Absorbed
in childhood and social expectations
Possible decisions: Been tight or fearful with
money, hold off on buying yourself anything or spending money on anyone else.
Feeling tired, drained and keeping yourself small and safe.
6.
I need someone to do it for me
Based
on co-dependency and not being challenged to be more independent or self-sufficient.
Possible decisions: Relying on others, fear around
doing anything on your own, not challenging yourself and staying in a comfort
zone
7.
I am not smart enough
Based
on what you may have been called as a child or unrealistic expectations on self
Possible decisions: Not speaking up, not giving
things a go, not exploring new possibilities or promotions, keeping yourself
small and safe.
8.
I won’t do that because I will
be humiliated/embarrassed or judged
Based
on a past experience of being humiliated, laughed at or judged
Possible decisions: Fear of speaking in groups or
public, stopping yourself from trying something new or challenging; constantly taking
things personally or feeling worried about what people are saying about you.
9.
I cannot fail
Based
on past experience or observations of others.
Possible decisions: Fear of getting started,
pushing yourself beyond your limits, avoiding challenges or new beginnings, not
allowing yourself to follow your dreams or deeper purpose
10. I
need to prove myself
Based
on a belief of not feeling good enough or worthy.
Possible decisions: Competing with others, having a
chip on your shoulder or attitude,
comparing self to others, pushing yourself to burn out limits.
Recognize
any of these? Sometimes they come as subtle thoughts that we do not even notice
we are having. And sometimes they are buried in our subconscious and only
surface through self-development or therapy.
Think
about how you can challenge and turn around these beliefs and have more resourceful
and supportive ones which will lead to new decisions and new outcomes!
And
with the ability to make great decisions you will notice the areas of your life
which once frustrated or dis-empowered you begin to fulfill you on a whole new
level and have greater levels of success and happiness in your life!
Enjoy!
To your truth and freedom with lots of love,
Cheryne
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