The 6 Most CRUCIAL Words you can ask yourself right now!

There are 6 words that I like to ask all my clients to help them attend to themselves and their needs, and almost every single person struggles to answer this simple yet obviously complex question.

For many of us it is hard to put ourselves first. We are so conditioned and so wrapped up in doing stuff for others and being what others need us to be, that we neglect our own needs. For many people, putting themselves first seems selfish or self-indulgent; so the thought of doing something for themselves actually creates more pain then pleasure.

The complex factor in all of this is that doing for others is what many of us base our self-worth on.
I am worthy if I am making someone happy
I am worthy if I put others first
I am worthy if people accept and like me
I am worthy if I put others before me

These beliefs create the pattern of people pleasing whereby the fear of disappointing people outweighs the need to take care of your-self. The problem in all of this is that in time our inner wellness tank gets depleted leaving us without much to offer people and instead of doing things for others with joy we begin to build resentment.

So these 6 words will help you stop the pattern of self-sacrifice and will help you embrace a Self-Care program which enables you to refuel your inner tank, and allow you to give back to those you love wholeheartedly.

So the 6 words are…

WHAT DO YOU NEED, RIGHT NOW?

Is this an easy question for you to answer? If so, then well done! And if not, please reflect on what I have mentioned above and stop for a moment and think about these words...

WHAT DO YOU NEED, RIGHT NOW? What do you need to feel calm, happy, and peaceful, at ease and energized? Go with the first answers which come to mind and list the most important things you need right now. You may be needing me-time, pamper-time, exercise, support, sleep, time in nature, social time or spiritual time. To embrace these, shift your mindset away from being selfish to a mindset of self-care where you realize that by filling up your inner tank, you will then have so much more to offer back to all those special people in your life.

And if you are struggling to think how you can Self-Care, then here is a list of

Self-Care ideas for the guilty:

1.       Have a massage – besides the health benefits of massage, there is tremendous healing in being touched.

2.       Retreat into nature- a beach walk, a forest walk; anywhere beautiful and quiet will do

3.       Have a bath- water is very soothing and relaxing as well as re-energizing and cleansing.

4.       Exercise can instantly shift a low mood as it produces endorphin's which energize and uplift the body

5.      Meditation- giving yourself even 5-10 minutes of focused breathing or visualization will instantly calm you and make you feel better

6.       Meet a friend- be around positive people who understand you and make you feel happy and energized

7.      Dance- put on some dance music and dance as if no one is watching. And if you feel even more energized take yourself off to a salsa or other dance class.

8.      Sing- again put on some music and sing as if no one is listening. Singing has a powerful effect on your throat Chakra and helps you clear out blocked expression or lack of creativity.

9.       Get Creative- pull out those art supplies, get out your journal or make something creative. My personal favorite is to take the time to make yourself a vision board.

10.   Yoga- yoga and meditation will both help you develop a state of mindfulness and relaxation in the body and will help calm and balance your senses. Stretching also helps you move emotion through your body and helps energize and uplift the body.

So any time you begin to feel depleted and know that you are in need for Self-Care, stop and ask yourself these 6 crucial words…

WHAT DO I NEED, RIGHT NOW?

Oh and most importantly… follow through :-)

To your truth and freedom with lots of love,

Cheryne 

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