Everything
in our lives is designed to make us go faster, do more, be more productive and
happen instantly. That is fine if you are a computer being ruled by an algorithm
or coding which defines you, but we are part of nature and nature does not work
that way. A tree does not just become a tree, a field of grass does not
instantly grow, however because of what technology is doing around us we have
altered our expectations on nature as well as on ourselves. We expect things to
happen now, we have lost our ability to wait and see things through and as a
result we are not allowing situations to grow organically and are deleting them
way before their true “down load time is complete.” We have lost the art of
being patient and live in a “download now” society, where we want things done
now and have no patience to wait.
The problem
with the impatience is that our expectations of people (Human Beings encoded by nature) are often not met leading us to
feel disappointed and in time resentful. This creates frustration and anger and
leads us to disrespect a person rather than embrace compassion and
understanding. In fact for most of us we are too impatient for compassion and
understanding.
I
love Robin Sharma’s view on Patience…
Patience
keeps us grounded and ensures we evolve as nature intended. Patience ensures
that step by step we learn the lessons we need to learn and each step allows us
to recognize our strengths. Patience allows us to enjoy the journey without
worrying about the future or placing unrealistic expectations on ourselves and others.
Here
are 5 steps to help you break down the process and learn The Art of Being
Patient:
1.
BREATHE
We have
been given the best self regulation tool to manage our emotions moment by
moment. This tool is our breath. Our breath helps calm the nervous system by
altering and slowing down our brain waves. As the brain waves slow down so do
all the other bodily systems- heart rate
slows down, muscles relax, adrenals relax and we begin to have positive
hormones flowing through our systems rather than Adrenalin and Cortisol. By calming
yourself with your breath you allow the body to come off its stress mode and utilize higher parts of
the brain which in turn allow you to monitor your responses rather than react
from the emotional brain.
This
is key in building patience as your breath can help you manage situations by
keeping you calm and focused as opposed to stressed and reactive. As your
frustration, anger, overload or overwhelm builds begin to focus on your breath
and begin to bring yourself back into a state of calm. (Read previous post, The Power of Your Breath)
2.
BE PRESENT
By
focusing on your breath you will then have the ability to be in the NOW and
embrace the present moment. Fear is often us replaying the past or moving into
expectations or predictions of the future. And when we are in the past or the
future we are not in the now and miss the opportunities which present
themselves in this present moment.
In last week’s post I wrote about the process of a caterpillar becoming a
butterfly. Imagine the caterpillar lost patience in the cocoon? Imagine he
decided it was too frustrating, too long, too painful and simply had enough. If that was the case we would live in butterflyless world. We would miss out
on this beautiful symbol of transformation and freedom…all because of
impatience.
Being
present allows you to focus on what is around you and enjoy the journey and the
joy that is in the present moment. Everything is happening in its time which
means that every stage of growth is important and must be embraced.
3.
LET GO OF
CONTROL
Learning
to let go allows you to be patience and remain confident that everything is
happening for a good reason.
4.
BE ORGANIC
By
letting go and staying confident we allow situations to remain organic. We
allow relationships, people and all situations to run their natural lifecycle. We
get out of the way and allow nature to grow.
5.
TRUST
By
letting go we embrace trust. Trust allows us to embrace uncertainty and trust
that everything is happening as it needs to and for our greater growth. Trust
allows us to focus, allows us to believe and allows us to focus on our inner
resources and resilience rather than the problem. Trust instantly calms us and
can be seen as the foundation of all mental health as when we are in Trust we
are not in fear and when we are not in fear we are being our true selves and
not the Ego (fearful) self.
Now
that we are back in our natural state we can come back to positive emotions
like joy and gratitude which bring us back into our natural state of play and
fun, making all situations easier and more tolerable. Most importantly we can step
back, let go and be patient, knowing that everything will work out in the end,
and if it hasn't worked out yet…then it’s not the end…
To your truth and freedom with lots and lots of love,
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Beautiful post, dead on accurate :)
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